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    The Oak Garden Building | Short Story 2021

    As I gaze out my window at the sky while watching my children sleep,  the brisk winds remind me of a building that I once lived in,  wherein I saw, sensed, and were horrified,  an encounter with which I'm not comfortable speaking.  Fortunately, everything turned up okay. My name is Herman, but my friends called me Er, and the following is a story of what occurred to me 23 years ago. I have had a passion for writing since a kid. Now my guardian thinks I can go even farther. Consequently, they help me submit an authorship application and enrol in further linguistic, writing, and journalistic courses. Little did I realise that I'd be given a job to help me improve my abilities while simultaneously taking part-time writing courses to support my income. I was a young twenty-year-old at the time. Too young, yet inquisitive and willing to try new things. As a young author, the chance pushed me to go outside my comfort zone and acquire essential experience.  Pay attention to the sound

    Why you should not compare yourself with other?

    Why you should not compare yourself with others? Let's faced it, sometimes, we are comparing ourselves with others. But, the question is, why? I know it might sound crazy but comparing yourself with others is either ungrateful or feeling defeated.

    why you should not compare yourself with other?

    Why is it so important to not compare yourself with anyone? Well, we'll go through that after this. But first, let's talk what the reason comparison coming within ourselves is. Comparison can bring a fight between friends, a hatred between families and self-destruction.

    People compare too many reasons with others; but, comparing happened to everyone, even myself. We compared a small matter with others, even if it does not make any changes in our life, we compare how we look on our outfit with a friend, and we compare a thing that doesn't even bother anyone.

    We all did that. But, sometimes comparison can be so scary until it can destroy someone's life. It's not healthy, and we must do something, not over the limit of what we compare with others. 
    why you should not compare yourself with other?

    Let's talk about being grateful.

    Let's take an example. The comparison we make are related to someone else life. Meaning that we want to be like the other, but the reality is we can't because we still lacking in some ways. 

    While you live in this world and think that you had the unluckiest day of your life, such as a money problem, no job, and still clueless, this actually destroys your self-esteem. But, hear me out, you're not alone.

    Most of the people had gone through that process, some survive, but some did not. The more they compared themselves, the more they became depressed. Sometimes, it's a good thing if you make the comparison to motivate you. However, it gave more damage than healing.

    Comparing yourself with others can be gruesome; it takes your joy and leads you to sadness. So, what should we do to stop comparing ourselves with others?

    Here's the truth, the older you get, the more you realize that everyone had their own struggle in life. And when you see on the bright side, you will realize that you are not the only one who struggles. 

    I know it's hard to move on, but we can't simply allow ourselves to be hurt again and again just because we compare ourselves with others. Take a rest, learn to be grateful, and learn about its importance; I'm sure you will heal day by day if you implement the gratification in life.

    Reasons for not comparing yourself with others

    why you should not compare yourself with other?

    You had your own struggle.

    Often we thought that our life not perfect,

    no money... 

    And so on...

    Yes, we do get jealous a little bit, but, let's put it like this, just imagine that we had a long road to go, but we still kept going, we had to stop at someplace for a rest, but eventually, we arrived at our destination. Jealousy is a normal thing. Each of us had our story. You cant compare your struggle with others; maybe, we thought that our struggle is too much. But, in reality, somebody was struggling much worse than you are but still can make it through. Be grateful and enjoy every little thing, even if you feel like giving up. 
    why you should not compare yourself with other?

    You had your own timeline.

    Some of us work as a teacher, doctor and even work as an engineer. Because they choose and work hard to be where they are today. In other meaning, you can't be in their life's chapter. You can't compare your chapter 1 with someone's else chapter 20. 

    If you choose to study, then go for it; if you choose to be a star, work hard. We all had our own timeline, sometimes there are so many obstacles in front of us, but someone made it through. If they can make it, then you can too.

    It doesn't matter how long the process you took or what struggle you had been through. Comparing yourself with others does not make it any better. 

    You had everything

    Well, not exactly everything. Think of one thing that the person you compare yourself with does not have. Maybe he or she can do well in sports, but not in arts and crafts. But, you can do well in arts and some creative stuff. 

    Everyone had their uniques talent, so do you. Therefore, you might felt less than the person you compare with, but the truth is you already had what you needed. Ignore the comparison but take action to work hard and be the better version of yourself.


    At the end of the day, we all made a comparison between a particular person. You can compare yourself, but you can't let that comparison destroy you. What you can do is focus on your journey.

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