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Why you should not compare yourself with other? -

Let's faced it, sometimes, we are comparing ourselves with others. For what reason? I know it might sound unrealistic but comparing yourself with others is either because you are ungrateful or feeling defeated.

Let's talk about being grateful

While you live in this world and think that you had the unluckiest day of your life, money problem, and felt like this is the end of your life, compared yourself and all kind of negative thoughts can actually destroy your self-esteem. But, there's good news, your not alone.

Most of the people had gone through that process, some survive but some did not. The more they compared themselves, the more they became depressed. Sometimes, it's a good thing if you make the comparison to motivate you. However, it gave more damage than healing.

Comparing yourself with others can be gruesome, it takes your joyful, and leads you to sadness. So, what should we do to stop comparing ourselves with others?

Here's the truth, the older you get, the more you realize that everyone had their own struggle in life. And when you see on the bright side, you will realize that you are not the only one who struggles. 


You had your own struggle

Often we thought that our life not perfect,

not rich... 

still not married...
and so on...

Yes, we do get jealous a little bit, but, let's put it like this, just imagine that, we had a long road to go, but we still kept going, we had to stop at some place for a rest but eventually we arrived at our destination. Jealousy is a normal thing. Each of us had our story. You cant compare your struggle with others, maybe, we thought that our struggle is too much. But, in the real world, somebody was struggling much worse than you are but still can make it through. Be grateful and enjoy every little thing even if you feel like giving up. 

You had your own timeline

Some of us work as a teacher, doctor and even work as an engineer. Because they choose and work hard to be where they are today. In other meaning, you can't be in their life's chapter. You can't compare your chapter 1 with someone's else chapter 20. 

If you choose to study, then go for it, if you choose to be a star then work hard for it. We all had our own timeline, sometimes there are so many obstacles in front of us, but someone made it through. If they can make it, then you can too.

It doesn't matter how long the process you took, or what struggle you had been through. Comparing yourself with others does not make it any better. 

You had everything

Well, not exactly everything. Think of one thing that the person you compare yourself with does not have. Maybe he or she can do well in sports, but not in arts and crafts. But, you can do well in arts and some creative stuff. 

Everyone had their uniques talent, so do you. Therefore, you might felt less than the person you compare with, but the truth is you already had what you needed. Ignore the comparison but take an action to work hard and be the better version of yourself.

At the end of the day, we all did a comparison between a particular person. You can compare yourself but you can't let that comparison destroy you. What you can do is focus on your journey.
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.
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